Ok...things I need to know...
Ok Ladies...here it is...since our sweet pea will be home soon, I am asking all of you...yes even the lurkers for help! When you came home with your baby...what is the one thing that you wish you knew that no one told you. I want you to be completely honest...tell me! If you are a lurker, now is your time to post! I know that there are some of you who read this who do not have children yet...your time is coming...so I am hoping this helps you too. Forward my blog along to your friends...I want to know all! I know that there things that will pop up that are unforeseen but with your help...maybe the surprises will be less!
It's Saturday night date night! I love Saturday night date night! I think we should have done this sooner. But I am glad we are doing it now. We have been together for almost 8 years and you forget what it is like to date the man you love and adore. Tonight we are going to Orazio's. We love it there! We had our rehearsal dinner there...it is soooooo good!
I can't find my camera adaptor for the computer! I am going crazy! I have so many pictures I want to post! So I am on a mission to find it! I am hoping I find it soon! I am going crazy!!!
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I can not think of one BIG thing...like an item I would have liked or something I could not have ever lived with out...I may have to ponder that LOL but what stands out for me is all the freakin' unsolicitated baby raising advice. I am not one for advice anyways....but there were a few people in particular that drove me crazy with their advice (not that I ever asked for) about "how to do this" or "this works for me" or "you should do this or try it this way" "My child did this at this age....blah blah blah " AHHHHHHHHHHHHHH. Sadly what ended up happening is that I drew away from these people and do not have the relationship I once had with them....I am not saddened by it at all more like relieved that I do not have to listen to all that nonsense anymore!
Colette- take a deep breath, sit quiet and relax. Don't try to figure everything out now...goes back to that whole control thing, huh? (Takes one to know one though). But seriously, if I was a betting woman, I would put money on that fact that you will do JUST FINE all on your own! Just love your baby, it's as simple as that. Love her and bond with her and the rest will come naturally. It's amazing how instinct totally takes over.
Enjoy every minute!
Ok... here's something I didn't expect after our baby arrived. Chuck & I argued more often. I think it was a combination of lack of sleep & the stress of caring for a new baby that made us irritable. Plus I might have been a tad overprotective & he was sensitive. I remember one time during the 1st week when he had Aidan on the changing table in our bedroom, then walked away for maybe 3 seconds to get something. I was lying in bed but jumped up & yelled at him (something like, "you can't leave him!"). I had read so many times that you can't leave a child on a changing table that I reacted without thinking & realizing that Aidan was so young, he wasn't going anywhere!
HI Collette,
I'm sooo excited! Advice. Well, lets see. Trust your instincts. You are the Mama. Michele is right too. It was kinda hard for me to trust Dave. LOL, I know that's awful to say, but my instincts really kicked in and I wasn't sure if anyone else could take as good care of her as me. So, bite your lip. --- Assuming you want Jeff to take night shifts, change diapers, feed her, etc. It doesn't matter where she sleeps. If she will only sleep in her swing or papasan, or carseat, its ok. :) ummm. No storebrand diapers (at least Wegmans- Sorry Danny). If you get any as a gift, just take them back for store credit. We tried them. They are aweful! You WILL eventually get through the sleepless nights. DATE NIGHT. - Go to the Drive-ins. Obviously sleep all day as much as you can, so you can stay awake when you get there, at least for the first feature. :) Go on more date nights before. Drink more wine. You'll be too tired to drink any later. 1 sip will make you pass out after the babe comes.
:) Julie
Here's my input: every baby is different. For every piece of advice you hear, there will be a baby out there that is the exact opposite is the right things for their particular personality. So part of your job as a new mom is to get to know your baby so you can make judgements about what is good for YOUR child. I know you will do great!
Take some time in the beginning for just the three of you. You need to bond with your baby and have some famly time; visitors are nice but you may want to ask people to give you a few days to yourselves! We had that time with Jacob and then we asked for it when Elijah was born. It is great to see and share with family but you will love your alone time too!
molly
Hi Colette- I found your blog through my friend, Michelle's. (She was the one in the news for all of the complications she experienced while giving birth to her little boy). Anyway, I am new to blogging, but really found your story so complelling. You seem like you were meant to be a mom, and I'm sure that will become a reality for you! I have two little boys, the youngest is 7 months old. Since I am a major control freak, I can identify with the fact that you want to be as prepared as possible for your little girl!! Two pieces of advice I would offer would be: 1) To make and freeze as many dinners ahead of time as possible. It'll be the last thing you have time to do when the baby comes! Quick Dish Kitchen in Williamsville is great for this. 2)The second thing I wished I had known was that the baby will sleep pretty much anywhere for the first 3 months. Car seat, at the grocery store, bouncy seat, etc.., and the sleep patterns can be pretty unpredicatble. Around the 4th month, however, things usually fall into place, and you will see a pattern emerge. I found that it was really helpful in preventing fussiness and meltdowns to establish a routine, to put the baby in the crib, even if it meant I had to put off going to the grocery store or whatever. Some people are not so "schedule" oriented, but it seems to me that the baby is the one who sets the schedule, you just have to look for it! Good luck with everything, I'll be keeping you in my prayers as August approaches!
Hi Colette-I agree with everyones comments-I tried Target and Walmart brand diapers-they were too stiff for me. My advice-Practice taking the carrier seat in and out of the car and the stroller! WAyne didn't even know how to put it in the car when we picked up Jacob from the agency! Or how the straps and buckles worked! And practice buckling in a doll or teddy bear! We got our stroller from a coworker a year before Jacob and I forgot how to open the stroller up and close it! Thank God my friend was with me when I had to open it up and then try to close it because I felt really really dumb and would have had to just stick it in my car trunk without closing it-we were at a park close to home thank goodness! Can't think of anything else at the moment. I used dishtowels for burp clothes, they were cheaper and worked just as well.
Dana
We are SO excited for you guys!! My one piece of advice is to remember that she will only be a baby for a short time. I was just about at the end of my rope with AJ not sleeping through the night and my mom reminded me that he will only be tiny and want mama in the night for a short time. I will only have to wear grubby clothes (since I get spit on a lot) for a short time. I will only have to go without showers on some days for a short time! Let the dishes sit another day and spend some time playing on the floor - it will go faster than you can ever imagine.
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