Hi everyone. I spoke with our birth mom yesterday...it was so good to hear from her! She sounded well and you could hear the end is in site in her voice. We are thinking he will be born some time between Friday and Monday. He sounds like he is going to be a big boy! They are going to induce her, but they have to check a few things before they do to make sure all is well. So keep those prayers coming!
I was thinking about something this morning while I was in the shower (BTW I do my best thinking and singing there!) We have been through so much...Trying to get were we are that I often wonder when it is easy for others to get pregnant, some of them take their kids for granted. You see people in the stores, yelling at their kids, or in the parking lots or anywhere else...I often look at them and shake my head. Now, I am not saying I will not yell at my kids, but my mother never yelled at us in public, why would I...Is that a learned behavior...they way we raise our chidren?
Nothing is ever guarenteed in life. We may want things to go our way (like having him home in mid july) but the only one who knows how your life is going to go is God. So why try to do things that may conflict with what his plan is. I learned that by thinking or having some place tell us that we could have our baby home before christmas. So all the stress was a waste when I could have enjoyed my time with my family. If you have to push a situation to get what you want out of it...was that meant to be. I think looking back on our Match, everything has gone according to plan...just the way it should. Now that doesn't mean that I wanted it to move faster...because boy did I ever! But I would not want to change a thing. I think of where my stress settles in my body and it is my back...where is it for you? Your stomach, your head with headaches? We all deal with stress differently.
On Monday, I turned all my stress over to the Lord when it came to our adoption plan. I felt releaved, like a weight was lifted off my back! Try turning something over to him that you have going on in your life. What an amazing feeling it is. Just ask him to take it for you....pray to him! It is amazing how it works! Hugs
We have him home. I spoke to our birth mom today...and she is having contractions. Poor honey, she sounds so tired and uncomfortable...I feel for her!
They are about 20 minutes apart. The doctor sent her home and told her to rest.
SO she will either go tonight or sometime in the next few days. We are at my parents getting one last swim in, then we are heading home to get the car packed, and then we wait for the call to come! So we need lot's of prayers and well wishes for everyone! Thanks for all your support during this wonderful jounery and my next post will be announcing our son! (God willing) Hugs and Blessings!
Well does it? Because that is what is happening to me. I am dusting and vacuming the house...again! Today I am going to work on the kitchen. I am listening to my christian music on the TV and life is good. But what is with the crying? AF is not here or close...so maybe they are tears of joy. Who knows.
Got another GREAT night of sleep! From 10:30pm right through to 5:00am when Jeff alarm went off. Then, my hubby lock himself out of the house, so he called me at 6:45am so I could give him his keys! I figured I was up I would do stuff... well then I saw the cutest little face on my bed...his name is Eugene! I had to kiss it and love him...the next thing I knew it was 9:00AM!!! Wow Thank you god! He must know that my days are numbered when it comes to sleep! I read the paper, drank my coffee, called Amy and chatted for a few minutes until our call got disconnected, checked out some blogs and now I am doing my blog, and then I will finish dusting and vacuming. I think I am going to tackle the kitchen. Normally Jeff does that but I think I will. Everything else is done, so why not! I could go out and shop...but I am going to save my money. I was thinking about going to some garage sales...but I began to think...I have so many boy clothes that I don't really need anything and we plan on having a shower after he gets home, so I don't want to buy anything I can get new.
Jeff and I had a great night last night. We don't have to say anything to each other...we just know...these 58 days have been so wonderful...reconnecting with each other...falling more in love then ever before...the words can't describe the love I have for him.
Life is going to change...our quite home is going to become, some what noisey...for a time...and that is ok. Jeff and I both come from a home with 2 kids. Our houses were always quite even with 2. I guess that is what we are useto. That is ok. If we are blessed with 2 children so be it...it is in God's hands' not ours. If this is his plan to have only one...we are so fine with that. My mother is an only child and she turned out great! We will see. It is all God's plan not ours. We will wait to see what he has in store for us. Let's just get our little guy home. As mom would say..."don't get ahead of your self...be happy with what you have and let Him decide. "
Hugs and Blessings...Today I am PATIENTLY WAITING
I am losing my mind! 11 days till his due date! I am losing my mind! I can't think of anything other then HIM! He is just not ready to come out...I think he wants to be 8 lbs.! Which is fine with me...the bigger the better...but...all I want to do is shop! That is not a good thing for me! Loving to shop is one of my trates that is bad. I am now hooked on Wal-Mart. Never thought those words would ever come out of my mouth! Yes that sounds snobby...I guess I am! I grew up in Amherst...what can I say...I admit it...I am a snob! I love Wal-Mart. Maybe becasue I am being a mom and have to be more practical about money...they have great buys...but somethings are not priced great...you have to be careful! They have a great return policey...unlike...Target! Bad Target Bad!
So here I sit in my office at work...looking out that same window I looked out before I knew I was going to be a mom. How things look...So here I am still Patiently (not) Waiting!
I am at work, so I will give a quick update...Ok...spoke to our birth mom last night...she sounds so tired...(at almost 9months preg. so would I) Her Doctor appointment went well. She has "dropped" and the pressure is very uncomfortable! She can't sit for long periods of time and laying down on her back she gets relief. So...that is good news...baby is doing really well and so is birth mom. Praise God! I will be talking to her this weekend...anyone have a guess as to when he will be hear??? My frined Katie said the 27th...Jeff thought the 17th. Anyone else care to guess?? Well...keep checking! It is a beautiful day...I think I am going to cut out early! Hugs and Blessings
Hi all... no baby yet! Sorry I didn't post yesterday...busy with work and spending time with Jeff. I also was tending to my garden. While we were sitting in back our neighbor walked by with he 6 week old baby boy! We are both so excited...Max and Julian will be playmates! How exciting!
Spoke to our attorney today...everything is still on track...so we are still patiently waiting! That is all the news I have today. Oh he is up to 7 lbs now!! Grow baby grow!!!
-------> This is a picture of my girlfriends...Lisa and Kris. Kris watches a little boy during the summer and that is who is in the stroller, and what a good baby he is!
**** Girls, I decided not to post the group photo...no one would have been happy! We had fun at Kris's house. All the kids were there and it was a great afternoon. (we could have done without the humidity!!!!) YUCK!!!
What a great day we had today! After a terrible night sleep... both of us...Jeff woke me up and asked if I wanted to go to church...I rolled over and said...Nah. not today...then I said yes...let's go! Jeff agreed and said that we will miss a few weeks when the baby comes, so it is a good idea. Well, I would have been very upset if we didn't go. Pastor Wes was giving the service today. I love when he preaches! It is amazing! It was all about how God created us! He picked me to be me...to have the struggles, the ups and downs...the most amazing husband...everything. How lucky am I! We laughed and cried at the same time.
Also today was the baby dedications. Normally I would want to get up and run away from that. Today was different...I think for both Jeff and I. He took my hand, and we sat there together and talked about each baby. Jim Kelly (ex- quarterback for the Bills...) His brother Dan and his wife were having their children dedicated. They have 4 boys and finally a girl! What a great family! They were so cute up there. Jeff and I both looked at each other and at the same time we said... we will be up there soon! Baby dedication's in our church are a big event. There are no god parents, just you, your husband and your baby...it is truly wonderful!
After church, we met with Katie and Pat and their children, talked a bit and then Katie gave me a bag full of bottles! yeah....I love getting things from friends...stuff that their children used. I can't wait to get new stuff too! After we were done chatting away...we drove to Tom Towers. But we took the long way. I think if I was told that I had only a day to live and they asked me what I wanted to do... I would say...take a long drive along the sea way trail with my hubby. When I was little my mom and dad and us kids would go for a drive along the same sea way trail that Jeff and I do. We hold hands, drive slow and enjoy the time together. It might sound goofy but it is so romantic. We talk about the house we would buy if we won the lottery and how we would buy alot of land and move my parents there too. This is something we will do when the baby comes too.
I know that God has a plan for everyone...our plan is different then all of our friends...they all had children early in their marriages...but for us...we will be married 7 years in September. we have had 7 wonderful years together...while we were young and spunky. Vacations we have taken, we have been able to complete our home the way we wanted it...have 2 great dogs...and so much more. I am so blessed to have such an amazing husband. He is so good to me. have I told you that he cooks...and bakes...and does so much for me. His love is amazing...I wouldn't change a thing...not one thing! I love my life and everything in it.
We are still Patiently Waiting...
For real...so are our days...the closer we get to our due day the faster the days are going. We had dinner at our best friends house last night...what a great time. We laughed all night...Jeff really enjoyed himself too. We are truly blessed to have this family in our life. Their youngest son is our god son...Amy's brother was in town, so it was great to visit with him and the rest of the family. When we ealked in Amy said (I am not quoting...I can't remember exactly what it was but when something like this.) "you couple only nights are coning to and end" Man is she right!
So tonight we are renting a movie and having a pizza! Our own little cheap date night at home. I love spending time with my hubby. He completes me. I called him this morning to find out what he wanted to do and when I got off the phone I said to my mother...I feel like we are date each other again! It is such a cool feeling.
Our Birth Mom is going to the doctors on the 17th...so we will she how she is doing...she is just over 37 weeks...at 35 weeks he was already 6 lbs. So by now we think he could be up to 7lbs.
So mom and I went shopping today...we were looking for containers for the flower arrangements for the shower and invites. We had a very productive day! We found both! Bounus! Now I have to make up the list and get that over to mom by the end of the weekend. There maybe a change of date for the shower...depending on if he arrives early. I am not searching for the best price for announcement cards. Everything is so expensive! It is crazy! But you know me...only the best!
My MIL's boyfriend had a massive heart attack and had triple by-pass surgery yesterday. He is in ICU and is recovering. What a crazy week it has been in Jeff's family. His sister had emergency surgery to remove an ovary...she is doing great! She is very lucky, she has already had her 2 children and was just diagnosed with endometriosis. Lucky for her she doesn't plan on having anymore children. She really didn't have any problems conceiving her children either. It amazes me how some women have problems TTC and others don't. It is a mystery to me!
So everyone is on the mend and we hope things get back to normal before the baby comes. He is entitled to have all the attention on him. Is that selfish of me? I don't think so. SIL's children have had the spot light on them for a long time. It is now our turn.
We are still Patiently Waiting...
an Italian's house when...it is 93 degrees outside and you are having pasta for supper! YEs...we are at my parents house...again! Well, truth be told we are here all the time in the summer. In the winter it is maybe once a month...I think by August we all get on over load...by October we are dying to be together again! So the pool water was 87 degrees today...and dad was proud..."that is without the heater!" It was, believe it or not refreshing! Then after about an hour I start to get the goose bumps and get out. Jeff is always the last out.
So I sit here at my mothers computer, smelling all th smells of an Italian meal...prepared by an Italian mother. Life can't get any better then this...(well, it can...with a baby here...soon enough!) The buggie is ready for him...we are still...patiently waiting!
Paulette and Jodi...finally! Yes....we found out on Tuesday...our birth mother had 3 u/s... it was a girl...then she had to have in internal u/s and low and behold...there it was...he is all boy!!! So we are waiting for our SON to arrive! I always thought I would have a son first...not sure why...just did. I have followed the same path of my mother....she too had multiple m/c and a still born, then they adopted my brother...then 9 months later she became pregnant with me. I am not saying that I am pregnant or that we are trying, because we are not. It is just interesting how things work. We just want our son home.
It took a few days to come down from the fact that we were not having a girl anymore. I don't mean we are disappointed, because in no way are we. We are so thrilled!!!!!We had to take things back and exchange them for "gender neutral" just in case they are wrong again. Everyone is very excited...now my MIL will have 3 grandsons! She was disappointed, I could hear it in her voice...I understand...I do.
I think Boys are the sign of the times. There have been 2 boys recently born on our street...all within the last month and a half. My good friend had a boy this spring...there have been more placements of boys in my group of adoption friends all around the country. So we are having a BOY!
Ok...here is a little political rant! We were putting the pack n' play together...the instructions we in Spanish! COME ON PEOPLE!!! THIS IS THE USA!!!! What is up with that! We are very intelligent people...the English that was printed in the booklet was minimal. I was disgusted!
Since this is the USA and English is our first language, can we make that the predominate language please! If I wanted a pack n' play in Spanish I would have gone to Mexico and bought it there! That is my feeling on instruction booklets!
Well we got up early this morning anticipating going to church...then we remembered that there was a Flea Market down the street from My parents in Getzville. So we watched church on TV (channel 7 at 7:30 am every sunday) got dress and got on the road. We were really looking for old wooden toys from fisher price for the baby's room to put on the shelves...they had them, but they were $45-65 per toy! OUCH! Well we didn't buy any and walked around then left. We then went to Tom Towers for our weekly produce shopping, then to Lewiston where we stopped for day old pizza at Di Camillos Bakery...The best day old pizza in town. So as we were walking back to the car, bags in hand, holding hands...I said to Jeff...these days are coming to an end where we can just jump out of the car and go into a store. Soon we will be unloading a baby!!!!! He smiled!
There are so many things I want to do with our baby...so many...I don't want to wish the time away...so I am going to enjoy our last days together as a couple! Later today we are going to my parents to swim and have a BBQ.
Mom and I had a great time at BRU...we did some shopping but we also registered. I got there first and when my mom arrived it was like seeing a kid in a candy store where the candy is free. Her eyes lit up and got really big. She headed over to the clothes...little girl clothes...so I had to pull her away...then we headed to the other sections and began to register. It was alot of fun. She kept me grounded and we really ejoyed our selves! It was a great day!
This morning Jeff told me to start packing an over night bag so when we get the call we are on our way. So I am going to do that today...
Have you noticed anything different???????????? First one who guesses get a prize!!! Jen G and Dana...you can't guess...you already know...
Have a great day!!
Well this weekend is going to be hot again! I really am not a fan of the heat. I prefer it to be around 70 degrees and now that our birth mother is so far along, I feel bad because it has been such a hot summer. My mom told me this is the type of summer she had when she was pregant with me. Only difference is i was born at the end of June...we are not on July 7th! Everything is still on track and we are so darn thrilled I can hardly stand it! Mom and I are going to register today...Jeff doesn't really care on way or the other. He is so funny...I think he is getting bored and just wants the baby home! I agree with him! Not the bored part...whating him home.
I think mom is excited that I am including her. Why not this is her first grandchild and maybe her only, so since we are best friends...I wouldn't want it anyother way! Plus she will keep me grounded. I am sure I would register for everything under the sun, if I could.
My girlfriend stoped by on Friday...she had her son about 4 months ago and he is already rolling over!!!! We are so excited...Rae and I worked together years ago...now our children will be friends! How cool is that!
I cleaned the baby's room on Friday...it is all set and ready to go...(except for the shelves Jeff is building, he will around to it soon) It looks so beautiful! I can't wait to have the baby in there! My friend lent me her grandmothers, Aunt's rocking chair...We think it is pretty old!!! It just makes the room! So that is where we are. We are still in town...haven't left yet...waiting for the call to come! Keep you all posted!
It has been a crazy week and we are only half way through! Spoke to our birth mom and thing are going great! Doctor said it could be soon. Baby looks great! I know it sounds crazy...but I am scared! I know it is a normal feeling and everyone feels this way. I remember I had this feeling when we were pregnant...but now I am older and we have had almost 4 years more together. I am looking so forward to adding a baby to the family...just scared. All my girlfriends said they felt the same way...so I know I am normal! Jeff is so excited...it is so cute to see our men like this...I love it!
It was a very nice day even though it rained most of the day! We ended up going to our neighbors for dinner and had a lovey time. I just love our neighbors...Dave and Peggy and Scott and Jenny. We have become great friends! They are so excited about the baby too! I feel like it is all I talk about...good lord...I am sure I am boring people with it. My friend said I was glowing...I said of course I am in my 9 month...don't all expectant mothers glow???? We chuckled! It is going to be a week to end all weeks. I have taken 2 days off from work to do a bunch of stuff around the house. I am hoping to get up early, so I can go for lunch with the girls, but still get stuff done in the house! That is my plan! Well it is late, I should get to bed...I am wired...I had a half cup of coffee at 8:45pm...what was I thinking!!!!!
So here is Jeff putting together our stroller. You would have thought he was putting together a million little peices! Oh What fun!!! So we have the stroller and car seat ready to go. Jeff asked me last night if the luggage was in the attic. I love that question...now he is thinking like I am. I am getting all the clothes together...getting stuff ready so when Mom comes to watch the dogs thing will be perfect for her. I love this process but I think it is making me crazy!!! I have check lists about my check lists!!!! Oh Lord help me!!! I wouldn't change it for the world!!!
So the evil neighbors are at it again! Yesterday when I pulled in the drive way..."M" came charging at me...that is the nicest way to say it...charging like a bull! She started yelling..."take all of your stuff off the fence we are removing it!" I was on the cell phone and I looked at her and thought..."she is surly crazy!" I told her that if she removed the fence she would have to replace...well she flipped out! She started to follow me up my drive way...as I was pulling in and then was yelling in between the houses! - Good Lord! So I went into the house told Jeff what was going on and he and my mother reminded me that the fence is on OUR property! When Her husband installed the fence he put it on OUR property...except for a half panel. So after she settled down, and she was out side I tried to approach her...she is very young and VERY immature! I told her that we have our survey and will give them a copy of it to show them that it is our fence. Well the Knuckle head that she is said "well we paid for it...it is our fence" Yeah well it's on OUR property...whether they paid for it or not! So now we are dealing with this non sense! Every year we are harassed by these people. Jeff is really getting to the point that he is now saying things...which says alot! We have contacted our attorney and we are going to let her handle it...but good lord woman!
for a side note...we called the police on they guys who work on their yard...they were spraying chemicals on our garden after Jeff had told them to stop and his response was that "his customer" told him to do it and he is going to do it. He then became very abusive to Jeff and Jeff wasn't going to stand for it. Jeff then called the police and when they arrived...a very handsome cop...if I might add came to the door, we explained to him what was happening. Then the cop went over to talk to him and he became abusive to him...so the cop knows that we were not blowing this out of proportion! So i think that is what sparked her to go crazy! So, when she was ranting and raving...saying that we call the police on her all the time...which is a total lie...once in 3 years...that is not all the time! I said she was acting crazy! Holy Cow...you would have thought that I took her first born...she went nuts...I turned to Jeff and said...let's go back in side...she is losing control! So that is where we are with the crazy neighbors...They are pure evil! That is when I thought of this
...“I know the Lord is always with me. I will not be shaken, for he is right beside me.” Psalm 16:8 (NLT)Every now and then I think God puts the devil in front of you to see what you will do. Well...isn't he funny...he put her right next to me! He has a funny sense of humor!
Everything is moving right along with the adoption. Only 1 month and 2 weeks left...6 weeks to go! I can hardly wait. I know that there is still a chance she may not place...there is always that chance...but it is in the Lord's hands and I know he will do the right thing! Everything is falling into place...the house, the baby, the job, our life in general. I am so thankful that I chose to turn it over to him and stop trying to being in control of everything.
Ok Ladies...here it is...since our sweet pea will be home soon, I am asking all of you...yes even the lurkers for help! When you came home with your baby...what is the one thing that you wish you knew that no one told you. I want you to be completely honest...tell me! If you are a lurker, now is your time to post! I know that there are some of you who read this who do not have children yet...your time is coming...so I am hoping this helps you too. Forward my blog along to your friends...I want to know all! I know that there things that will pop up that are unforeseen but with your help...maybe the surprises will be less!
It's Saturday night date night! I love Saturday night date night! I think we should have done this sooner. But I am glad we are doing it now. We have been together for almost 8 years and you forget what it is like to date the man you love and adore. Tonight we are going to Orazio's. We love it there! We had our rehearsal dinner there...it is soooooo good!
I can't find my camera adaptor for the computer! I am going crazy! I have so many pictures I want to post! So I am on a mission to find it! I am hoping I find it soon! I am going crazy!!!
Oh good lord! I thought car shopping was time consuming! Boy was I wrong! I like to shop...we all know that...actually...I LOVE to SHOP! So we are on a mission to find the right baby stroller and car seat...this is my mission...my mission to find this car seat and stroller at a really good price. I am picky...very picky so this is the car seat I want along with the stroller. Only problem is...Babies r us don't carry it in the Metro Lite. I love the Metro Lite...it is only 12 lbs it self...easy to lift and put in the trunk. I have a bad back so I have to be careful with what I lift. So now I am on a mission to find this car seat and stroller online for less. Jeff is such a good sport, I think he just likes being with me and spending time with me he doesn't care where it is. I am lucky! This I know. We have not done a full blown registry yet...we are waiting to do that until it gets closer to the due date. More like mid July. But I have been slowly adding things to the registry...it is fun but very overwhelming. I have friends that are calling telling me what they have for us...It is exciting.
Since I am straight comission I am limited to my time off...but you all know me...I am going to take as much as possible. Jeff is taking 2 weeks off...He JUST told his boss we are adopting...that is the difference with women...I have had my bill board up for some time...everyone knows we are adopting! So...Jeff is so excited! I have a private office so I am able to bring her to work...My boss is cool with this...I think he would rather see me working then not! So would hubby!
My mother calls me at work and tells me things she has thought of during her day about the baby's room or anything else relating to baby. My father said last night...every day he gets more excited! I love to hear that from him! I have always wanted my father to be here when I had a baby. I never had a grandfather, so it is so important to me that my dad is here. I am blessed with that also considering in January we almost lost him! I am taking off tomorrow to help jeff out with things in the house and to try to get caught up with work at home. I know that our house HAS to be in order when the baby comes...this is a must! I will go crazy if it is not! So things are moving along...53 days till our sweet pea arr
ives! Maybe sooner! Here is the stroller let me know what you think! I don't want anything too pink, there is going to be alot of pink, I wanted something trendy!
Philippians 4:6-7
"DO NOT BE ANXIOUS ABOUT ANYTHING, BUT IN EVERYTHING, BY PRAYER AND PETITION, WITH THANKSGIVING, PRESENT YOUR REQUEST TO GOD. AND THE PEACE OF GOD, WHICH TRANSCENDS ALL UNDERSTANDING, WILL GUARD YOUR HEARTS AND YOUR MINDS IN CHRIST JESUS"
